Dealing with tough or high maintenance is a common problem for caregivers. Especially when dealing with an individual that doesn’t always think through things rationally. The demanding person in your life is unlikely to be great at compromising in relationships, and he or she is unlikely to recognize or credit you for your accomplishments.
Reasoning with difficult people
You may wonder if and when it is worth trying to persuade a difficult person to understand your point of view. When you are in a disagreement or argument with a difficult person, the short answer to this question is no. Because honestly, people who experience peace, ease, cooperation, and compatibility in their relationships are enjoying all of this because their partner or person with whom they are relating and wants to meet them halfway. A difficult person does not understand give and take, or compromise.
I will say it again, a difficult person does not understand give and take, or compromise. This is the entire problem and constant headache of having to deal with them and why it always feels so bad.
How to deal with difficult people
Did you know that there is actually such a thing as healthy conflict? This is where we might see things differently than another person, and openly disagree, discuss points, and cross-communicating, but in the absence of emotion or accusation.
People who learn the healthy dynamic of “agreeing to disagree” will find that not only are their conversational and public speaking skills greatly enhanced by way of mastering this valuable skill, but their relationships have improved as a result. You can even feel closer to a person after engaging in a pleasant debate. Why? Because in the end, someone permitted you to express yourself, heard what you said, acknowledged and considered it. They didn’t have to agree. All they really had to do was honor your thought process and admit there could be some validity there.
This is something that likely never happens with the difficult person in your life. Because if it did, you wouldn’t be here with your guts tied in frustrating knots after trying and failing yet again to make them see things the way that you do.
So basically, if you ever want to stand your ground against someone who makes you crazy on a routine basis, you can feel free to do so if it liberates you for the moment. But if your goal is to suddenly cause a breakthrough mindset in the other person, it’s very likely never going to happen.
And so, that frustrating feeling of trying and failing to get someone impossible to empathize and emotionally connect with you will go on in your life, for as long as you try to reason with the person whom you consider difficult.